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Aroma of Life | Different Disposition, Different Outlook

๐ŸŒปAroma of Life | Different Disposition, Different Outlook๐ŸŒป Every association of life calls for the exercise of self-control, forbearance, and sympathy. We differ so widely in disposition, habits, education, that our ways of looking at things vary. We judge differently. Our understanding of truth, our ideas in regard to the conduct of life, are not in all respects the same. There are no two whose experience is alike in every particular. The trials of one are not the trials of another. The duties that one finds light are to another most difficult and perplexing. Marked diversities of disposition and character frequently exist in the same family, for it is in the order of God that persons of varied temperament should associate together. When this is the case, each member of the household should sacredly regard the feelings and respect the right of the others. By this means mutual consideration and forbearance will be cultivated, prejudices will be softened, and rough points of character smoothed. Harmony may be secured, and the blending of the varied temperaments may be a benefit to each. — Mind, Character, and Personality Vol 2, 615-616.

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์–ด๋Š ์„ ์ˆ ์ง‘ ๋ฒฝ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚™์„œ/์ผ๋ณธ

์ผ๋ณธ์— ์ฃผ์žฌ์›์œผ๋กœ 23๋…„ ์‚ด๋‹ค์˜จ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ 12์›” ์ดˆ์— ์ผ๋ณธ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฌํ–‰์„ ๊ฐ”๋‹ค๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋Š ์„ ์ˆ ์ง‘ ๋ฒฝ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚™์„œ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์ง„์œผ๋กœ ์ฐ์–ด์„œ ๋ฒˆ์—ญํ•ด์ค€ ๊ฑด๋ฐ ์›ƒ๊ธฐ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์˜๋ฏธ๊ฐ€ ์‹ฌ์žฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๊ณผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‘ ์ค„ ์ฝ๊ณ  ์›ƒ๊ณ , ๋‘ ์ค„ ์ฝ๊ณ  ๋ฌด๋ฆŽ ์น˜๊ณ ... ์™€, ๋ญ”๊ฐ€ ์กฐ๊ธˆ์€ ํ†ต๋‹ฌํ•œ '๊พผ'์ด ๋„์ ๊ฑฐ๋ฆฐ ๊ฑฐ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. <18 81="">  ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์— ๋น (ๆบบ)์ง€๋Š” 18์„ธ  ์š•ํƒ•์„œ ๋น (ๆบบ)์ง€๋Š” 81์„ธ  ๋„๋กœ๋ฅผ ํญ์ฃผํ•˜๋Š” 18์„ธ  ๋„๋กœ๋ฅผ ์—ญ์ฃผํ–‰ํ•˜๋Š” 81์„ธ  ๋งˆ์Œ์ด ์—ฐ์•ฝํ•œ 18์„ธ  ์˜จ๋ผˆ๊ฐ€ ์—ฐ์•ฝํ•œ  81์„ธ  ๋‘๊ทผ๊ฑฐ๋ฆผ ์•ˆ๋ฉˆ์ถ”๋Š” 18์„ธ  ์‹ฌ์žฅ์งˆํ™˜ ์•ˆ๋ฉˆ์ถ”๋Š” 81์„ธ  ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์— ์ˆจ๋ง‰ํžˆ๋Š” 18์„ธ  ๋–ก๋จน๋‹ค ์ˆจ๋ง‰ํžˆ๋Š” 81์„ธ  ์ˆ˜๋Šฅ์ ์ˆ˜ ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” 18์„ธ  'ํ˜ˆ๋‹น/์••'์น˜ ๊ฑฑ์ •์˜ 81์„ธ ์•„์ง ์•„๋ฌด๊ฒƒ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š” 18์„ธ ๋ฒŒ์จ ์•„๋ฌด๊ฒƒ ๊ธฐ์–ต็„ก 81์„ธ  ์ž๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๊ฒ ๋‹ค๋Š” 18์„ธ  ๋ชจ๋‘๊ฐ€ ์ž๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”  81์„ธ. ———-!———!—— ๋ชธ์—์ข‹๊ณ  ์ธ์ƒ์— ์ข‹์€ ํ”ผ์ž ์—ดํŒ ๋ณด๋‚ด๋“œ๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ณ„์‚ฐ์€ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ—ˆ๋ฆฌํ”ผ์ž ๊ฐ€์Šดํ”ผ์ž ์–ด๊นจํ”ผ์ž ์–ผ๊ตดํ”ผ์ž ํŒ”๋‹ค๋ฆฌํ”ผ์ž ์ฃผ๋ฆ„์‚ดํ”ผ์ž ๋‚ดํ˜•ํŽธํ”ผ์ž ๋‚ด์ธ์ƒํ”ผ์ž ๋‚ดํŒ”์žํ”ผ์ž ์›ƒ์Œ๊ฝƒํ”ผ์ž ์˜ค๋Š˜๋ถ€ํ„ด ์‹ ๋…„๊นŒ์ง€ ๋Š˜ ์›ƒ์Œ๊ณผ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ์ผ๋งŒ ๊ฐ€๋“ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.**

'์นœ์ธ์ฒ™์ด ์‚ฌ๋ผ์ง„๋‹ค ..'

๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒ '์นœ์ธ์ฒ™์ด ์‚ฌ๋ผ์ง„๋‹ค ..' / ์•ž์œผ๋กœ์˜ ์‹œ๋Œ€๋Š” ์‚ผ์ดŒ, ๊ณ ๋ชจ, ์ด๋ชจ, ์นœ์ธ์ฒ™์ด ์—†์–ด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ˜„ ์„ธ๋Œ€๋Š” ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ ์žƒ์€ ์‹œ๋Œ€ ๋„๋• ์œค๋ฆฌ ๋ฒ•์น˜๋„ ๋ชจํ˜ธํ•˜๊ณ , ์ •์˜ ๊ท ๋“ฑ ๊ณต์ •๋งŒ ๋ถ€๋ฅด์ง–๊ณ  ๊ฑฐ์ง“๋ง ๊ถค๋ณ€๋งŒ ๋Š˜์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋จน๊ณ  ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์ œ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋„ ๊ณต์งœ๋งŒ ์ฆ๊ธฐ๊ณ  ํˆฌ์ž๋Š” ์†Œํ™€ํžˆ ๋„˜๊น๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜๋„ ๋†๊ฒฝ. ์‚ฐ์—…์‚ฌํšŒ ๋•Œ๋Š” ์‚ด๋งŒ ํ–ˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฟˆ์ด ์žˆ๊ณ  ์ธ์‹ฌ์ด ํ›„ํ–ˆ๊ณ  ๋…ธ์‚ฌ๊ฐ„์—๋„ ์†Œํ†ต์ด ์ž˜ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์•„๋“ค ์„ ํ˜ธ, ์žฅ๋‚จ ์šฐ์„  ์†์— ๋ฌธ์ค‘, ์ œ์‚ฌ, ์กฑ๋ณด์™€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ํ˜•์ œ์ž๋งค ์†์— ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ์ถœ์‚ฐ ์šฐ์• ๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๋ฉฐ ์‚ด์•„์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง€์‹ ์ •๋ณด ์‚ฌํšŒ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋ฉด์„œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ, ์ถœ์‚ฐ, ์ง์—…๋„ ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ ์œ„์ฃผ์˜ ์‹œ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋ณ€ํ•œ์ง€๊ฐ€ ์˜ค๋ž˜๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ˜•์ œ๋„ ์—†๊ณ , ๋”ธ ์•„๋“ค ๊ตฌ๋ถ„์ด ์—†๊ณ , ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๋”ธ์„ ๋” ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๊ณ  4์ดŒ๋„ ๋ฉ€์–ด์ง€๊ณ , ์ธ์„ฑ๋ณด๋‹ค ์ง€์‹์ด ์šฐ์„ ์ด๊ณ , ๋ฐฅ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ์„๋ฐ•์‚ฌ ๋ฉฐ๋Š๋ฆฌ, ์„ค๊ฒ†์ด์— ์•„๊ธฐ๋ณด๋Š” ์•„๋“ค! ์ฒ˜๊ฐ“์ง‘์— ๋” ์‹ ๊ฒฝ์“ฐ๋Š” ์•„๋“ค! ์œ ์•„๊ธฐ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๊ณ ๋„์˜ ๊ฒฝ์Ÿ! ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ๊ฐ™์€๊ฑด ํ•„์š” ์—†๊ณ , ๋‚˜ํ™€๋กœ ์‚ด๋‹ค ๊ฐ„๋‹ค๋Š” ์ฒ˜๋…€ ์ด๊ฐ๋“ค, ๊ฐœ, ๊ณ ์–‘์ด๋ฅผ ๋ฐ˜๋ ค์ž๋กœ ๋ชจ์‹œ๋ฉฐ ์ธ๊ฐ„๋ณด๋‹ค ๋‚˜์€ ๋Œ€์ ‘์„ ๋ฐ›๋Š” ์„ธ์ƒ์ด ๋˜์—ˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ ๊ฐœ, ๊ณ ์–‘์ด๊ฐ€ ์ฃฝ์œผ๋ฉด ์ธ๊ฐ„์ด ์กฐ๋ฌธํ•˜๋Š” ์šฐ์Šค์šด ์‹œ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐœ, ๊ณ ์–‘์ด ์ฃฝ์œผ๋ฉด ํ™”์žฅํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ด‰์•ˆ๋‹น์— ๋ชจ์‹œ๋Š” ์‹œ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋˜์˜€์œผ๋‹ˆ ๊ฐœ๋ณด๋‹ค ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ์ธ๊ฐ„์ด ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹Œ์ง€? ํœด~ ์›๋ฃธ์ด ๋Š˜์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  1์ธ ๊ฐ€๊ตฌ๋Š” ๋Š˜์–ด๊ฐ€์ง€๋งŒ ์ธ๊ตฌ๋Š” ๋งค๋…„ ์ค„์–ด๊ฐ‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ถ€๋ชจ ๋˜๊ธฐ๋Š”-- ์‰ฌ์›Œ๋„ ๋ถ€๋ชจ ๋‹ต๊ธฐ๋Š”-- ์–ด๋ ค์šด ์‹œ๋Œ€. ๋ฌด์ง€(็„ก็Ÿฅ)ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ˆ ์—†๋Š” ๋ถ€๋ชจ(็ˆถๆฏ)๋Š” ์„ค ๋•…์ด ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค! ์•„ํŒŒํŠธ๋งˆ๋‹ค ์ž”์น˜, ์ง‘๋“ค์ด, ์ƒ์ผ์ด ์—†์–ด์ง€๋ฉฐ, ์‚ผ์ดŒ ์ด๋ชจ๊ฐ€ ์—†์–ด์ง€๊ณ , ๊ฐ€์กฑ ๋ชจ์ž„์ด ์—†๋‹ค๋ณด๋‹ˆ ํ•„์š” ์—†๋Š” ๊ต์ž์ƒ, ๋ณ‘ํ’, ๋ฐฅ์ƒ์ด ์ˆ˜๋ถํžˆ ๋ฒ„๋ ค์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค! ์–ด๋ฅธ๋“ค๋„ ์ Š์–ด์„  ์ฃผ์‚ฐ(็ ็ฎ—) ์‹œ๋Œ€์—” ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ, ์ปดํ“จํ„ฐ ์‹œ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์˜ค๊ณ ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ๋Š” ์ปด๋งน์˜ ์‹œ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ปดํ“จํ„ฐ ๊ต์œก์„ ๋ฐ›์ง€ ๋ชปํ•ด ์ Š์€์ด์— ๋น„ํ•ด ์ˆœ๋ฐœ๋ ฅ๋„ ์ดํ•ด๋ ฅ๋„ ์•ž์„ค ์ˆ˜ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ญ(้ฉ›)์ด๋‚˜ ํ„ฐ๋ฏธ๋‚ ์— ๊ฐˆ๋•Œ๋„ ์ง‘์—์„œ๋‚˜ ํ•ธ๋“œํฐ์œผ๋กœ ์˜ˆ๋งคํ•˜๋Š”

'์„ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์œ„๋Œ€ํ•œ ์—ฐ์ฃผ'

๐ŸŽ๐ŸŒฑ๐Ÿ’ ์„ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์œ„๋Œ€ํ•œ ์—ฐ์ฃผ ์ง€๋‚œ 2013๋…„ ์˜๊ตญ์˜ ํ•œ ๊ฒฝ๋งค์žฅ์—์„œ ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ ํ•œ ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋ฌด๋Œ€์— ์˜ฌ๋ž์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๋ฐ ์–ด์ฐŒ๋œ ์˜๋ฌธ์ธ์ง€ ์žฅ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ˆ™์—ฐํ•ด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฐฑ์—ฌ ๋…„ ์ „ ๋ช…ํ’ˆ ๋ธŒ๋žœ๋“œ์˜ ๋ชจ์กฐํ’ˆ์œผ๋กœ ๋งŒ๋“ค์–ด์ง„ ์ด ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ์€ ํ˜„๋งˆ์ € ๋‘ ์ค„๋ฐ–์— ๋‚จ์•„ ์žˆ์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿผ์—๋„ ๋ถˆ๊ตฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์ด ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ์ด ๋ฌด๋ ค 90๋งŒ ํŒŒ์šด๋“œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ˆ ์•ฝ 15์–ต4์ฒœ์—ฌ ๋งŒ์›์— ๋‚™์ฐฐ๋˜์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์•„๋ฌด๋„ ๋†€๋ผ์›Œํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ๋ฐ”๋กœ ์ด ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ์— ๋‹ด๊ธด ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•œ ์‚ฌ์—ฐ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 1912๋…„ 4์›” 15์ผ ๋ถ๋Œ€์„œ์–‘์„ ๊ฑด๋„ˆ๋˜ ํƒ€์ดํƒ€๋‹‰ํ˜ธ๋Š” ์•”์ดˆ์— ๋ถ€๋”ช์ณ ๊ฐ€๋ผ์•‰๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ‘ํŒ์— ๋ฐ”๋‹ท๋ฌผ์ด ์ฐจ์˜ค๋ฅด์ž ์Šน๊ฐ๋“ค์€ ๊ทธ์•ผ๋ง๋กœ ์•„๋น„๊ทœํ™˜์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ชจ๋‘๋“ค ์‚ด๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋ชธ๋ถ€๋ฆผ์น˜๋˜ ๊ทธ ๋•Œ, ์˜์—ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์—ฐ์ฃผ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ํ•œ ๋‚จ์ž๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ํ™” ์†์—์„œ ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ ์—ฐ์ฃผ๊ฐ€๋กœ ๋“ฑ์žฅํ•˜๋Š” '์›”๋ฆฌ์Šค ํ•˜ํ‹€๋ฆฌ (Wallce Henry Hartley)' ๋Š” ํƒ€์ดํƒ€๋‹‰ํ˜ธ์˜ ์•…๋‹จ์„ ์ด๋ˆ ์‹ค์กด ์ธ๋ฌผ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ค. ํ•˜ํ‹€๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ด๋„๋Š” 8๋ช…์˜ ์—ฐ์ฃผ๊ฐ€๋“ค์€ ์ด์„ฑ์„ ์žƒ์€ ์Šน๊ฐ๋“ค์„ ์ง„์ •์‹œํ‚ค๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ํƒˆ์ถœ์„ ํฌ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์—ฐ์ฃผ๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๊ธ‰๋ฐ•ํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ์šธ๋ ค ํผ์ง„ ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์šด ์„ ์œจ์€ ๋†€๋ž๊ฒŒ๋„ ํฅ๋ถ„ํ–ˆ๋˜ ์Šน๊ฐ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์นจ์ฐฉํ•จ์„ ๋˜์ฐพ๊ฒŒ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฐ์ฃผ๋Š” ์นจ๋ชฐํ•˜๊ธฐ 10๋ถ„ ์ „๊นŒ์ง€ 3์‹œ๊ฐ„๊ฐ€๋Ÿ‰ ๊ณ„์†๋๊ณ , ๊ทธ ๋•๋ถ„์— ์Šน๊ฐ๋“ค์€ ์—ฌ์ž์™€ ์–ด๋ฆฐ์ด๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ์งˆ์„œ์ •์—ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๊ตฌ๋ช…๋ณดํŠธ์— ํƒœ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ตฌ๋ช…๋ณดํŠธ๊ฐ€ ๋ถ€์กฑํ•ด ํƒˆ์ถœ์„ ํฌ๊ธฐํ•œ ์Šน๊ฐ๋“ค์€ ์—ฐ์ฃผ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์œผ๋ฉฐ ์ฐจ๋ถ„ํžˆ ์ƒ์˜ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์„ ์ค€๋น„ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํƒ€์ดํƒ€๋‹‰ํ˜ธ์˜ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ์—ฐ์ฃผ๋ฅผ ์ด๋ˆ ์ด ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ์€ ์›”๋ฆฌ์Šค๊ฐ€ ์•ฝํ˜ผ๋…€๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ์„ ๋ฌผ๋กœ ๋ฐ›์€ ์†Œ์ค‘ํ•œ ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ์ด๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์—๋Š” ์›”๋ฆฌ์Šค ์ด๋ฆ„์˜ W.H.H ๋ผ๋Š” ์ด๋‹ˆ์…œ์ด ์ ํ˜€์žˆ์—ˆ๊ณ  ๋ชธ์ฒด์—๋Š” "์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์•ฝํ˜ผ์„ ๊ธฐ๋…ํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ์›”๋ฆฌ์Šค์—๊ฒŒ" ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒˆ๊ฒจ์ ธ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์Šน๊ฐ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„๊นŒ์ง€ ํฌ๋ง์„ ์—ฐ์ฃผํ•˜๋‹ค ์ฃฝ์Œ์„ ๋งž์ดํ•œ ์›”๋ฆฌ์Šค๋Š” ํƒ€์ดํƒ€๋‹‰ ์นจ๋ชฐ 1์ฃผ์ผ ํ›„ ์ฃผ๋ณ€ ํ•ด์ƒ์—์„œ ๋ฐœ๊ฒฌ๋์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ชธ์—๋Š” ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์ด ๋ฌถ์—ฌ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋ฐ”์ด์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ์€ ์•ฝ